Opinion: Bragging on your failure doesn’t change the fact that you failed

http://whenwaterwaseverywhere.com/?x=free-viagra-sample By Rachel Witbracht
Staff writer

Failure, although natural and expected, is glorified by college students. Maybe that’s used as a vessel to shift the narrative from failure to funny, but it doesn’t make it less of a failure.

On social media, in the library and in classes, I can hear my university counterparts, especially around finals week, brag about only getting a few hours’ sleep. Or that they’ve had 10 weeks to write a paper, did it in three hours, and failed. Or that they quit their job and have $7 in their bank account for the next week.

Let me just say, this is not normal. But it is perceived to be.

Once upon a time, the social norm was to brag about your accomplishments. People were prideful in their endeavors. They were proud of the positive change they were making for society.

But somehow, this state of mind was transposed into the complete opposite. Instead of bragging about the good, it’s now shifted into how bragging about miserable something turned out.

This is dangerous. Depression is found in 13.9 percent of college-aged students, according to a study by Emory University. If students are constantly reiterating their negativity, and it is widely accepted by peers, it is instilled into a person that the negativity fosters attention. It might not be good attention, but it is attention on all fours.

By making fun of yourself first, a play right out of Tina Fey’s handbook, you substitute feelings of inadequacy for a parody of yourself. Sure, people may laugh, but it still doesn’t change the outcome of the situation.

We have to find a way to shift the narrative back. With everything going on in the world—massive wildfires, a hostile political environment, mass murders (pick your poison)—we have to implant a feeling of positivity and pride. We have to make people want to do well again.

It is necessary to re-instill in our peers a sense of pride and dignity in their work. We must to somehow shift back to when failure was not a norm, nor was it something to brag about.

Listen, I don’t care if you stayed up three days straight and only consumed coffee and Red Bull—you still failed your exam. Stop beating yourself up, take some responsibility and move on. Your defense mechanism isn’t helping you do any better.